The title, “The Game Is Rigged-why sex that’s consensual can still be bad and why we’re not talking about it” seems to presume two things.If, like me, you’re thinking by the dissatisfied women’s partners, of course, That this “vast expanse of bad sex - joyless, exploitative encounters that reflect a persistently sexist culture” needs to be acknowledged. The premise of the article seems to be that this situation needs further interrogation. Half of what I read is inspiring and encouraging.Ī recent piece in (a copy of said article is at the bottom of this post, for the purposes of fair use fair copying as a review of the article, and to provide a balanced perspective) relayed the experiences of female college students, a diverse population of smart, savvy, autonomous adults, who feel something between chagrined and victimized, by a widespread epidemic of bad sex. Aside from working directly with clients, I keep up on relevant research, articles, books, opinion pieces, and the occasional, well-thought-out blog.Ī variety of evolving attitudes and perspectives informs my work and feeds my passion. I might not be able to breath my way to wetness like Psalm can, nor will I probably ever look at a cookie the same ever again, but in one 90-minute class, I got my sexy back.In response and review of a New Your Magazine ArticleĪs an intimacy coach, my time is spent immersed in topics of dating, relationships, and sexuality. I stopped judging the little belly bulge staring back at me in the mirror, and starting simply feeling sexier. In Mermaid pose, as we squeezed our cookies and thrusted our pelvic bones out first while engaging our booty muscles, Psalm instructed me to "visualize pulling a string from our cookie to our hearts to throw the orgasmic Shakti energy over the top of our heads." As I'm throwing my orgasmic energy out, I blurt out, "I FEEL LIKE I'M SHOOTING RAINBOWS OUT OF MY VAGINA!"īut in all seriousness, I felt powerful. She added hip thrusts and pumps to Bridge, Kegels to Standing Goddess, a featherlike caress to our legs and booty as we came up from a Forward Bend, and had me stirring my honeypot with my tail bone and we made tiny circles with in Bridge pose. But many of the 22 OYoga poses are based on traditional yoga, just with a sexy twist. This is not the type of warm-up or instruction you'll get in a Kundalini Yoga class. When you do your hip tilt, inhale back, exhale forward and squeeze your cookie while he's inside you," she advised. Running our fingertips up and down our bodies in a non-sexual, but pretty darn sensual way, and tilting our heads back to let our long hair tickle the skin of our backs, and swiveling our hips in sexy little circles, I started feeling a little juicy for sure. "Yeah, I can get wet just by doing this type of breathing."Īs we stood there breathing, squeezing, and at least one of us possibly getting a little moist, we added a featherlike touch, sexy hair-play, and micro-movements of hip tilts and little circles to the mix. "And," she revealed, "when you breathe fire into your vagina, you can even get wet." Just standing there, breathing and paying attention to all sensations going on in my body, and squeezing my 'cookie' as she instructed, I did start to feel more sensual. She added Kegel exercises to our breath work. "Focusing on your breathing helps you be present in your body and when you are more present, you feel more, and when you feel more, sex is more intense," she explained.Īs we practiced the deep, slow inhale/exhales from the back of our throat for our Sexy Darth Vader breath, she explained how we were building a fire in our bodies. There's Bliss Breath, which Psalm accurately describes as a "Sexy Darth Vader" sound, and the Breath of Arousal, which stems from your belly button. It was a much-needed rule as I was found myself grimacing every time I looked at what those "healthy" pizzas did to my mid-riff in the full-length mirror in her yoga studio.Īs with any form of yoga, connecting breath with movement is an essential part of OYoga so we began with a lesson on the breathing techniques that help move sexual energy through your body. "Rule number one of OYoga: No judgment," Psalm told me at the start of our session. It was one part yoga workout, one part sex-ed, and one part motivational girl talk. When I told her my predicament, she customized the class for me. I took a 90-minute private OYoga class at Psalm's studio.
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